[{"bf_titre":"Online Dating Sites: Pick Your Poison","bf_description":"{{attach file=\u00221326417862612x612.jpg\u0022 desc=\u0022\u0022 size=\u0022big\u0022 class=\u0022center\u0022 caption=\u0022image 1326417862612x612.jpg (39.0kB)\u0022 nofullimagelink=\u00221\u0022}}\r\nToday online dating has reached maturity: major sites like Match.com and eHarmony have become entrenched by outlasting and buying their rivals, and newer free sites like Plenty of Fish and Loveawake are capturing those who can\u2019t afford a monthly fee. Each site has its pluses, minuses and a different kind of clientele.\r\n\r\nI recommend that you try a few services. Most have a free trial offer of anywhere from a week to a month\u2014if you\u2019re efficient and apply yourself you might generate a number of \u201creal life\u201d dates within the trial itself. Make sure you\u2019re making an appropriate effort to create a quality profile and respond well to the women who catch your eye. (I\u2019ll cover that soon.)\r\n\r\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022[Dating In California](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-California.html) | [Texas Local Dating](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Texas.html) | [Florida Free Dating](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Florida.html) | [Free Online Dating In Minnesota](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Minnesota.html) | [New York Dates And Chats](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-New-York.html) | [Ohio 100% Free Dating Service](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Ohio.html) | [Illinois Dating Site](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States\/state-of-Illinois.html)\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\r\nFirst let\u2019s look at the Big Three competitors, which will feature the broadest range of women to choose from. Later we\u2019ll go over some of the smaller or alternative options.\r\n\r\n=====Match.com=====\r\n\r\nUntil about a week ago, Match was third behind eHarmony and Yahoo Personals in total users. However, Yahoo Personals merged with Match, in theory adding their millions of users to Match\u2019s millions to create an Internet dating goliath.\r\n\r\nI say \u201cin theory\u201d because let\u2019s face it, Yahoo Personals was made up of a ton of inactive free accounts. Searching for active users who could actually respond to your messages was incredibly hit-and-miss. The number of actual paid Yahoo users moving over to paid Match.com accounts could be anywhere from 50,000 to half a million\u2014most dating sites don\u2019t like to give away their paid-subscriber numbers because they\u2019re far below the combination of paid members and free \u201clooky-loos.\u201d\r\n\r\nBut back to Match. This is the gold standard of paid sites, and they work hard to keep improving their offering. They\u2019ve come a long way since I used their services several years ago. In addition to their powerful search function and contact tools, they offer the \u201cDaily 5,\u201d five women their software determines closely match your profile, and an in-house service to improve your profile (at an extra charge). They\u2019ve also created chemistry.com to compete more directly with eHarmony. I like the fact that I can search for exactly what I\u2019m looking for, including body type.\r\n\r\nThe downside is that you\u2019ll have a lot of competition here\u2014more people means many more guys who think they should send a form e-mail to the same 5% of the women. If you can stand out (and I\u2019ll help you there), you can succeed, though. I did.\r\n\r\n=====eHarmony=====\r\n\r\nYou\u2019ve seen the ads with the happy married couples who met on eHarmony. You\u2019ve heard about the \u201c29 dimensions of compatibility.\u201d You may even know that before the Match takeover of Yahoo\u2019s customer base, eHarmony was the largest dating site in the world. Forget them. There are two things you need to know before you fish in the eHarmony waters: the Big Plus and the Big Minus.\r\n\r\nThe Big Plus for eHarmony is that about 60% of those millions of users are female. That\u2019s right, the best odds online are at eHarmony. You\u2019re outnumbered almost 2-to-1. Two girls for every boy, just like Surf City. In contrast, Match is almost even in male-female ratio, and Plenty of Fish has a slight lean towards more men.\r\n\r\nBut that brings us to the Big Minus: you don\u2019t get to choose the women you can contact. No searches for \u201cslender, blonde hair, with the keyword \u2018MMA\u2019 in their profiles.\u201d eHarmony chooses the women for you, based on those 29 dimensions. You can tell them to filter for smoking, drinking, children, age, religion, ethnicity, education, income and distance, but after that it\u2019s up to their computer algorithm.\r\n\r\nAfter you\u2019ve completed the personality tests and lists of \u201cvalues,\u201d eHarmony will start sending you profiles of women who they believe are a match. You can decide which to contact, and they try to make it fairly easy, even offering an anonymous phone forwarding service so women feel secure talking to you. All of this may actually save you from yourself if you don\u2019t want to put a ton of work into online dating, but it may be a jolt to see the women you \u201cmatch\u201d if you\u2019ve been overvaluing yourself on other sites.\r\n\r\n====Plenty of Fish====\r\n\r\nThe number one great thing about Plenty of Fish (or plentyoffish) is that it\u2019s free. And it used to be completely free, but last year the site started offering a paid upgrade option to push your profile to the top of search results. The gimmick is that upgrades are only for those \u201cserious members\u201d looking for relationships. There\u2019s a short test you must take\u2014and quite frankly it\u2019s probably easy to guess the \u201cright\u201d answers, so I don\u2019t see it stopping anyone\u2014before you\u2019re offered the chance to pay between $6-10 per month.\r\n\r\nMy advice is to try the free service for a while first and see its strengths and weaknesses. Plenty of Fish is strong on numbers, so there are millions of women with profiles. Unfortunately, the site is weak on matching, so to find appropriate women to message you\u2019ll have to use the Search feature and enter your criteria. Fortunately, the site remembers your last search so that you can repeat it to find new members at regular intervals.\r\n\r\nBest of all, it\u2019s free to send a message to any woman who floats your boat. However, members are allowed to specify who may send them messages. Most require a picture. Others will only allow you to talk to them if you don\u2019t smoke. And it\u2019s a dwindling few who will accept contact if you\u2019re looking for an \u201cintimate encounter.\u201d (That means sex. Just thought I\u2019d make that clear.) If your profile meets her criteria, though, send that note and get the party started!\r\n\r\nThe interface is clunky and it\u2019s hard to find all the various controls, but if you can master it Plenty of Fish should be a great option for the cash-strapped. 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